My life has been interesting.
That’s the simple way of saying it.
I’ve discovered recently how strong I really am. It was only when I sat down with a friend and we were talking about the past that she said
‘Gee, your life has been tough.
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I guess I’d never seen it that way before , but now, right now, I’m going to write for everyone to see my struggles.
My life took a turn for the worse in 1994 when aged 3, my parents separated due to my Dads alcoholism.
At seven, ‘The Monster’ got me. ‘The Monster’ refers to the rock spider that abused me for almost four years. The pain and fear of a little girl whose innocence was stolen is more than I can even comprehend now. It’s almost like being dead inside while still breathing.
When I was twelve years old I became very sexually promiscuous, sex became an escape from reality. Along with that reality I began cutting, something I still wear the scars from. Cutting to feel, to feel anything real. Of course my Mum didn’t believe I had a problem just that I was looking for attention. The thought of the pain of cutting still haunts me, that good feeling when you see the blood, see yourself on the outside how you see yourself on the inside.
At 16 I thought I’d met the man of my dreams, soon enough I moved in with him and everything was great. He healed a lot of my mental wounds.
Just a few months after my 17th birthday I found out I was pregnant. I never saw myself as mother material but chose to keep my son and make a ‘family.’
We moved interstate and on New Years Eve 2008 I received the worst phone call I’d ever had – my Dad had died. So at 20 weeks pregnant I had to go home by myself, plan my dads funeral and say goodbye. Part of me died along with my dad.
My boy arrived at the end of May 2009 and we were a happy family – for a few months. An accident out field had changed my sons father into a controlling abuser. After many beatings and 50 phone calls a day, I walked away with nothing but my son.
That was 3 and a half years ago and while our life isn’t perfect we are happy.
I am strong because I broke the cycle of abuse in my life and things are just going to get better.
Laini x